She has lost her grandma, a dear family friend, and just this weekend, her other grandma. All to cancer. All in the last two years. (Cancer can go fuck itself, by the way.) She saw them while they were in hospitals and hospice, clearly ill, deteriorating, but is emphatic that they will get better and come back very soon. She is heartbreakingly expectant.
My tactic so far has been to have no idea what my tactic should be, feel sad because I miss the person too, start to cry, then promptly change the subject before she notices I’m crying. I know. Smooth, right?